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Barbora Knobova is a writer, love coach and expert in Delicious Life. A world traveler, she is one of those rare world citizens who live everywhere and nowhere. Barbora is a firm believer in female friendship, loyalty and bonding. She writes hilarious, sharp-witted, caustically apt, ironic, moving, true books for strong, independent, smart, fearless women. Barbora has also written several self-improvement books and teaches women about the importance of self-love in relationships and life in general. Barbora speaks eight languages and has found her home away from home in New York, London and Milan. She is always on the move, accompanied by her beagle Brinkley, the nasty dog from her new book Tales for Delicious Girls.
Tales for Delicious Girls contains twenty-five exhilarating real-life stories about delicious women, eccentric men and stubborn dogs. The book offers witty, refreshing, clever and ironic insight into relationships between men and women from all points of view. The book is a modern relationship manual, providing answers to the most pressing dating and friendship questions that strong, independent, modern women want to know. “Tales for Delicious Girls” deals with wishes, desires and dreams – as well as hilarious mishaps and dating disasters.
Learn To Love The Delicious Self
One of the main subjects that my book Tales for Delicious Girls deals with is self-love. Why? Because we cannot be completely happy unless we love ourselves. Women often believe that sacrifice is the way to go. That they have to love their boyfriends, husbands, parents and friends more than they love themselves because loving yourself and putting yourself first is wrong. However, there is nothing wrong about true self-love. It's not selfish and conceited to love yourself and put yourself first. No one is responsible for your life, only you. No one can make you happy, only you. You have the right to be happy and you have the right to love yourself, respect yourself and be your best friend.
The way we feel about ourselves influences the whole world around us. Life is a mirror that reflects the relationship we have with ourselves and projects it into the relationships we have with other people. If you feel miserable about yourself, if you’re overly self-critical and focus on how "imperfect" you are, guess what happens? People around you see you the same way you see yourself.
However, as soon as you acquire a healthy, balanced, loving and generous attitude to yourself, the way other people treat you will change miraculously. Why? Because if you love yourself, you will be loved.
You can actually learn to feel better about yourself and literally fall in love with yourself, which will make other people fall in love with you too. It might not be easy at first but it depends only on you, which is good news. Decide right now that you are going to love and respect yourself unconditionally and that you are going to appreciate all the little details that surround you and that make you happy. You are the most important person in your life and you are unique.
There is one piece of advice that helped me a lot when I was learning to love myself more and discovering how to do it. Let me share it with you: When you feel uncomfortable, when you find yourself in an unpleasant situation, when something makes you unhappy and when you're not sure how you should react or what you should do, relax and think for a while:
Would I like my best friend (mother, sister, etc.) to experience this?
Would I like her to feel like this?
Would I suggest she acts this way?
If the answer is no, it means you’re fighting your self-love and not acting in your best interest.
Do what's best for you, not what's best for others! Self-love is your key to happiness and I hope that Tales for Delicious Girls helps you love your delicious self more than ever.